Saskatchewan Federation of Police Officers 37 Between 1999 and 2004, more than half a million men in Canada had a female partner who was violent toward them. The partner might have been a wife, an ex-wife or a common-law partner. This means about six per cent of men in intimate relationships have experienced abuse or violence from their partners.1 MENABUSED BYWOMEN So what is abuse? •Abuse in intimate relationships is a pattern of behaviours where one partner dominates, belittles or humiliates the other. •Abuse of men by their partners happens when the partner uses emotional, physical, sexual or intimidation tactics. She* does it to control the man, get her own way and prevent him from leaving the relationship. The abused man is always adapting his behaviour to do what his partner wants, in the hopes of preventing further abuse. •The primary motive for abuse is to establish and maintain power and control over a partner. The abused partner resists the attempts to control him. In turn, the abusive woman takes additional steps to regain control over her partner. •Abuse in intimate relationships is not typically an isolated incident. Abuse happens over time. If abuse is allowed to continue, it becomes more frequent and more severe. Control tactics: four kinds of abuse Often when people think about abuse, they think of emotional abuse, physical abuse, or sexual abuse. Abuse may also include intimidation tactics. EMOTIONAL ABUSE TACTICS include: •Putdowns •Controlling finances • Isolating her partner and restricting his freedoms •Spiritual abuse (ridicules or insults religion or spiritual beliefs) PHYSICAL ABUSE TACTICS include any activity that can cause physical pain or injury. SEXUAL ABUSE TACTICS include: •Uses force or pressure to get her partner to have sex in a way he does not want •Ridicules or criticizes his performance •Withholds affection or sex to punish him for violating her rules INTIMIDATION TACTICS are any words or actions that the abusive partner uses to scare her partner. For example: destroying property, threatening, stalking or harassing. The primary motive for abuse is to establish and maintain power and control over a partner. The abused partner resists the attempts to control him. In turn, the abusive woman takes additional steps to regain control over her partner. “ ”
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